3/16/2016 – Matthew I. Trainham, Adams Center

3/16/2016 – Matthew I. Trainham, Adams Center

Trainham Matt 2Mr. Matthew T. Trainham, age 56, past away at his home after a nearly 22 year bout with brain cancer. As per his request, there will be no services.

Matt was born, October 2, 1959, in Watertown, the son of Thomas and Elenore Snyder Trainham.

He graduated from Watertown High School and Niagara University.

On December 16, 1995, he married the former Barbara Haven in Cape Vincent with Reverend Windle officiating.

Matt worked for a time at Marine Midland Bank in Watertown, and as an Assistant to Richard Chapin at Chapin Watermatics.

He was avid Clarkson Hockey fan, he played, coached, and reffed hockey games in Watertown. He also enjoyed gardening, both vegetables and flowers.

Surviving besides his wife Barbara, are three sisters, Mrs. Deborah (Robert) Chapin of Minnesota, Kristy Shaw of Calcium, and Mary Jane (Tom) Siver of Watertown; nieces and nephews.

Donations can be made in his name to either the American Brain Tumor Association, 8550 West Bryn Mawr Ave, Suite 550, Chicago, Il. 60631, or to Hope Lodge, 125 S. Huntington Ave., Boston, Ma. 02130.

A message from Barb; I am blessed to have met and loved a man who has inspired so many along the way, and in return, in our time of need so many have truly stepped in to help. Our thanks go to all for the prayers and love, dinners and financial gifts, time spent caring for Matt, visitors, texters, cards of encouragement and love. Medical personal who have treated us like family, guiding us for nearly 22 years in the Brain Tumor journey. Dedicated individuals who shared of themselves in our efforts to raise $100,000 for Brain Tumor Research and Awareness. The amazing response of Clarkson University hockey team to embrace us with support, not limited to fund raising efforts. When air turns to breath, Matt was my breath. Thank you everyone for all your kind, caring words and deeds.


  1. Mary-Ann Lanham-Livingston Posted

    Barb….I am so terribly sorry. My heart aches for you and your family. There are no words to express my sympathy for what you are going through. Always know that you are what kept him around for as long as he fought. You were his strength, and now he is yours as your guardian angel guiding you from above. Praying for peace and comfort for you.

  2. Mandy Earley Posted

    Barb, I haven’t seen you in years but my sister Mary- Ann keeps me up to date on you and Matthew. I know you both gave a strong and persistent fight against his illness. Now it’s time for Matthew to rest. You are in my thoughts and I am willing to help you get through this difficult time in any way I can.

  3. Lisa Steiner Posted

    Barb, my husband Joe and I met Matt ands yourself last summer while camping at Wescotts. We are so thankful that we were able to visit with the two of you. You both touched our lives in many ways. We were so very glad that we were there to be able to help pack up your things. Today when I heard this news of matt it brought tears to my eyes I will be praying for you through this tough time.

  4. Cathy & Jim Scoons Posted

    Barb, Jim & I are thinking about & praying for you. We are so happy that we were able to share camping at Westcott’s for many years and the beautiful flowers Matt always tended to lovingly. Jim fondly remembers their golfing date and your awesome healing hands. It is not often we meet such special people who bring smiles, tears and touch our hearts so. You both put up valiant fights and we are so sorry for your loss but know Matt has a very special place in heaven with his heavenly father.

  5. Jill (Bettinger) Pippin Posted

    Barb, I’m so sorry to hear of your husband’s passing. He was a very gentle and positive man. My thoughts are with you.

  6. Marty Morrison Posted

    Barb, Our condolences for your loss. Both you and Matt fought long and hard against this terrible disease. It was surprising to see how motivated Matt was to help raise money for a cure. Both the flower program and golf tournament were worthy causes. When I mentioned his passing to my father the other morning, he immediately remembered Matt from the flower program you used to run out of the old Chapins’ Flower Shop. I am sure this loss is devastating for the whole family. Be strong, and continue the good fight.

    Marty & Lynne Morrison

  7. Mai Liinve Posted

    my heart goes out to you. Matt’s suffering is over but I know that there is a big void in your life. He beat the odds for a long time with your support and love. May the good memories of your time together sustain you in this difficult time.

  8. David Corey Posted

    Barb – You have Tina and My deepest condolences to you and all of Matt’s family. While the shock and sadness are still here, I’ve also been able to smile and even laugh a little with friends over the past few days, as we have talked about Matt and the great times we spent together as kids and young men. For me, so many memories of so many happy times have surfaced over the past few days.

    He was blessed to have such a strong supportive person like you beside him during these difficult years. Thank you for taking care of our friend until he had to leave!

  9. Joan O'Brien Posted

    Dear Barb,
    I was saddened to hear of your loss. Please know how very sorry I am. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
    Joan O’Brien

  10. Richard Kingsbury Posted

    Barb, the Kingsbury family from Weaver road, where Matt grew up, are here to express our deep sympathy and sadness on Matts passing. He was a fun loving, kind and caring man. We played football, basketball in all kinds of weather. Matt was an excellent athlete and gave his all. But most importantly, he was a great friend, and a decent, sincere person. We were proud to know him and appreciate his true goodness. His suffering is over but if ever there a man who earned and deserves a ticket to other side, it is Matt. Dick, Bob, and David Kingsbury hope you find peace and comfort in knowing Matt has broken the surly bonds of earth and is touching the face of God.

  11. Laurie Davidson Donohue Posted

    Barb – Please know that you are in both our hearts at this time, we saw your love and we understand your loss, we wish you some small measure of peace during this time. Godspeed Matt.

  12. Donna Pennock Bushey Posted

    Cathy, Kesha and I send our heartfelt condolences. We were so appreciative that Mom had a friend in Matt and were saddened to hear of his passing so soon after Mom’s. It is a doubly sad time for us now. We hope your happy memories will sustain you during this difficult time.

  13. Darrell Russell Posted

    Barb – My deepest sympathy for your loss of Matt. He was a good guy, and I was blessed to call him a friend. He touched many lives during his life, and he fought a valiant fight for these many years. Sandy and I really enjoyed our visits together when we were back up in the Watertown area. He is now at peace, and you are in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

    Darrell Russell

  14. David Drew Posted

    I am so sorry for your loss we were neighbors of Matt and Mary Jane in Watertown memories of Matt were of a super intelligent thoughtful kid who I always thought would grow up to be someone special and he was Again my condolences . David Drew

  15. David Drew Posted

    I am so sorry for your loss we were neighbors of Matt and Mary Jane in Watertown memories of Matt were of a super intelligent thoughtfuul kid who I always thought would grow up to be someone special and he was Again my condolences . David Drew

  16. Diane Skiff Posted

    Barb,my daughter and I were so fortunate to have met you and Matt camping last year at Wescott.Even tho it was for a short time you both touched our lives in many ways .Even departing our ways you both were in our thoughts .It was so sad to see that Matt had passed away but the memories and fondness of our area he shared will always something that will not be forgotten.

  17. Donald Thompson Posted

    Barb,you are in our thoughts and hearts even thought we are so very far away. So sad to see Mats passing. Chrissy and Don

  18. Debbie Aubertine Posted

    You are in our thoughts and prayers. We were so saddened to hear of the loss of Matt. He fought such a long hard fight for so many years. We hope that all the wonderful memories you hold in your heart will be a comfort to you.
    Deepest Sympathy, Scott and Debbie Aubertine

  19. Ron and Doris Lewis Posted

    Barb, we are so very sorry to hear about Matt. He was truly a wonderful man, and I know you felt blessed to have him in your life. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. Ron and Doris Lewis

  20. Nancy Ruetten Posted

    Barb, You are both amazing role models; your faith, love, strength, and support for each other never faltered. I have admired you both for many years! I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
    Tim and Nancy Ruetten

  21. Sandy O'Neil Posted

    Barb I cannot imagine the pain you feel losing Matt, he touched so many lives. Matt was more than just a friend to me he was more like my younger brother as we grew up on Weaver Rd . He is now resting in peace after fighting for so many years. I hope you find peace knowing he isn’t suffering any more.

  22. Michael & Karen Fairbanks Posted

    Matthew – This trail has ended but new adventures await. We’ve already texted Barbara and she is on her way. We’ll meet at Bob Evans and go from there, stopping by Clarkston University for a quick hockey game on our way out of town. We can’t imagine our lives without the both of you, so with this thought in mind, we will continue on together. We love you Matthew, time everlasting.
    P.S. I KNOW it was you who turned on my Angel night light the other night. Thank you for proof that you are still as mischievous as ever and that our sense of humor does not die when we leave our physical core behind. The only thing I ask is that you give me privacy when I’m naked. LOL

  23. John Raymond Posted

    To the Trainham family, I am sorry to hear of Matt’s passing. I hadn’t seen Matt in many years. I will always remember our childhood together. Almost everyday playing football, basketball, baseball and street hockey with the Kingsbury’s.

  24. Michael Perry Posted

    Dear Barb,
    With deep sadness, I have just today learned of your loss. You probably don’t remember me by name since we were only briefly acquainted but I was the guy who joined up with you and Matt as well as Pete and Bruce at the Clarkson buffets this past year. I just want to tell you how very much I enjoyed sharing some time with you both and how much sorrow I feel to hear that Matt has passed away after such a lengthy and inspirational battle. Please accept my deepest condolences as well as my thoughts and prayers for you during a most difficult time.

    Mike Perry
    Parishville, NY

  25. Bill and Annemarie Huggins Posted

    Dearest Barb, words cannot begin to express how Bill and I feel about Matt being gone. You are an exceptional person to have kept Matt with us as long as you did. We will miss our golf games, playing cards, going out to eat and all the laughter we had. The last get together for Matt and Bill for their October Birthday’s was very special.
    God Be With You, Bill and Annemarie Huggins

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